When people use the lessons learned and the precepts of A Course In Miracles, they find that they come to a new understanding of forgiveness. They are able to study and learn why you hurt yourself and others when you do not forgive.

This is why it is so important that course of miracles  another person hurts you, you must forgive. Often we hear someone say, "I can never forgive him/her for this." Oh, but they must! The one who needs to forgive is affected just as much as the one who needs to be forgiven, if not more deeply! You can forgive the wrongdoer whether he asks for forgiveness or not. By doing so, the pain that the person caused you will be lifted from you and you can be freed from any anger and negative emotions. This will be the first of the miracles that is granted and obtained by the power of forgiveness learned from A Course In Miracles.

One ACIM student describes their own need to forgive and what they learned. This is their story: